If you catch coronavirus who will take care of your family?

Learning self-care is key to manage your own stress so you can care for your family

If you catch coronavirus who will take care of your family?
Coronavirus and your family. (WFTV.com News Staff)

COVID_19 has already gone viral, because it’s all people are talking about. Chronic conversation about the disease can trigger major stress and fear, which can shatter the second greatest tool you have to fight this disease – your body’s own immunity system.

(The single greatest way is to avoid exposure to the disease by social withdrawal as recommended by the Centers for Disease Control or by visiting www.coronavirus.gov )

If you are stressing in fear and get sick, who will take care of your family? If you live alone, who will take care of you? These are hard questions, but reality as America braces for an unprecedented level of traumatic stress the next 30 days. Taking care of your health is essential. Start by managing your own feelings. Stop talking only about the illness and stop living in constant fear. It is a dangerous disease which is made worse with worry. The more you stress the weaker your body becomes and the greater risk you are to contract COVID_19.

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There is a concept called “Self-Care” which is controversial among nice people who live to care for others. Not controversial because it is against science, no, because it is counter cultural. Some people grew up learning to take care of everyone and everything else and if there was anything left over to care for themselves last. While this sounds noble, consider what every flight attendant says before takeoff, “in the unlikely event of cabin depressurization, oxygen masks will fall from the ceiling. Put the mask on yourself first.” You’ve likely heard that safety briefing many times, but this time it’s not in an airplane – no - it’s in your home. You must take care of yourself first because self-care is not selfish.

Here’s how the process works.

· Self-care

· Family-Care

· Friend-Care

· Co-worker Care

· Community Care

When you learn to take care of yourself, you have health and energy to take care of your family, friends, coworkers and then community. The core strength flows outward from yourself by meeting your needs first. While this may seem uncomfortable, it’s actually a simple process. You may already be practicing some areas of self-care and not realizing it. Start by focusing on personal worth – because you are worth caring for. This isn’t Oprah self-esteem talk, no it’s learning to value your own sense of worth by choosing positivity over fear. You are valuable and your health matters. Once you decide to take care of yourself first add all the categories of wellness – physical, emotional, behavioral, relational and spiritual. These elements keep our human body protected by a powerful immunity system which can grow stronger or weaker during times of stress. You can choose to aggressively stay healthy through self-care and when you do your immunity will aggressively grow and protect you. Begin with the basics of physical health for strength including sleep, nutrition, hydration, exercise, hygiene and deep breathing.

Breathing in while counting blessings is a good way to eliminate stress and fear. Build physical wellness then adding positive coping skills in the other areas that boost immunity - emotional, relational, behavioral and spiritual. The more you laugh, exercise, hydrate, eat nutritional foods, meditate, read, learn diaphragmatic breathing, pray, be out in sunshine – the stronger your immunity grows. Breathe. Trust. Believe. That’s how to increase faith over coronavirus fears, and it’s the beginning of personal self-care.

Once you feel empowered and strong you can go ‘viral’ by sharing with your family and friends how to achieve mental wellness and psychological strength. Your self-care will encourage them and strengthen them as well. Breathe in faith – exhale fear. Breathe in blessings – exhale panic.

Breathe in wellness for you and those you love with these proven measures to boost immunity, then as an act of kindness to others trapped in fear.

The way to shatter panic over a pandemic is by building inner peace and that starts with you. It starts with your own self-care and it starts now.

Build your self-care with these practical steps

Physical:

· Sleep (7-9 hours)

· Sleep rituals- Same time to wake up and go to bed

· Predictable daily schedule

· Healthy Diet with Regular mealtimes

· Hydration throughout day

· Nutritional supplements

· Low impact exercise

· Yoga/Pilates/Stretching

· Deep breathing

· Relaxation routines/massage or energizing naps

· Regular physical checkups, including blood work

· Medication, (as prescribed by your physician)

Emotional:

· Esteem building exercises, especially with photos or images

· Laughter/Fun/Playtime

· Face anger, anxiety and apathy directly

· Journal out negative emotions

· Let go of painful memories

· Say “NO” to bad habits

· Talk through issues to get through issues

· Identify and process hurtful emotions

· Write letters to vent out disappointment or regret, (then tear them up- this is to free you – not start a fight on Facebook!)

Relational:

· Face relationship issues

· Voice your needs to others

· Confront conflict directly

· Connect with friends/family

· Share your burdens with others

· Join a support group

· Utilize counseling supports

· Join a hobby group which involves others

· Say “NO” to manipulative behavior

· Hugs/affection, (from pets or people)

· Learn the love language of those close to you and let them know your needs as well

Behavioral:

· Daily planning time

· Utilize organizational planners

· Short term goals

· Daily hobbies for enjoyment

· Creative activities for relaxation

· Develop victory list of accomplishments

· Create a bucket list of lifetime goals

· Reading for personal development

· “Pay it forward” to do good for others

· Learn something new everyday

· Take on new challenges

· Leave work stress at work

· Take a training course to gain new knowledge and skills

Spiritual:

Reading for inspiration

· Meditation

· Listen to inspirational music

· Forgive those who have wronged you and forgive yourself

· Watch spiritual development classes to deepen your soul

· Watch inspirational services online

· Make prayer a regular part of your day

· Memorize scriptures to inspire and develop your mind

· Remember, “Things come to pass – not stay”

· Re-create spiritual peace in quiet places

· Build spiritual strength through meaningful experiences

· Attend prayer vigils to experience greater community connection

· Observe a day of rest

· Get in touch with nature

· Visit a bike trail, park, lake, beach or hike a mountain trail

CDC.gov Medical Prevention and Treatment of coronavirus disease (COVID-19)

The best way to prevent illness is to avoid being exposed to this virus. However, as a reminder, CDC always recommends everyday preventive actions to help prevent the spread of respiratory diseases, including:

- Avoid close contact with people who are sick.

- Avoid touching your eyes, nose, and mouth.

- Stay home when you are sick.

- Cover your cough or sneeze with a tissue, then throw the tissue in the trash.

- Clean and disinfect frequently touched objects and surfaces using a regular household cleaning spray or wipe.

- Follow CDC’s recommendations for using a facemask.

- CDC does not recommend that people who are well wear a facemask to protect themselves from respiratory diseases, including COVID-19.

- Facemasks should be used by people who show symptoms of COVID-19 to help prevent the spread of the disease to others. The use of facemasks is also crucial for health workers and people who are taking care of someone in close settings (at home or in a health care facility).

- Wash your hands often with soap and water for at least 20 seconds, especially after going to the bathroom; before eating; and after blowing your nose, coughing, or sneezing.

- If soap and water are not readily available, use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer with at least 60% alcohol. Always wash hands with soap and water if hands are visibly dirty.

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Dwight Bain is an author on managing crisis to create positive change who lives in Orlando with his wife, two kids and four cats. Follow him across all social media @DwightBain